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A 40 something dad of five and a half wonderful kids with amazingly different traits and temperament from whom he wants a break from at times, yet wish they never grow older.....and be with him always.....(howzat possible?)and now wishing that he can be a stay at home dad......

15 November, 2008

Crystal Anniversary Hideaway

By the time this entry is posted (thanks to auto/scheduled/timed-posting which blogspot introduced), wifey and I are on our way to a much deserved 3-day-hideaway-break and staying in one of the heavenly abodes above....And it's a surprise for wifey (of course I have about 3 other surprises up my sleeves lined up for wifey which will be unfolded one by one by the day)! Well the weekend away is not a surprise; the destination is! I really wanted to surprise her in toto but to save myself being surprised with shock-horror, I decided dead against it! (wifey's a workaholic you see....Even on days which she is not well and gets medical leave, off she'd go clocking-in! This time she even thought of bringing her laptop along - well let's just put it in the mildest way; I forbade her. I don't mind a few of this breed in my office as my support staff, though!).

We were married on 21st November 1993 (btw, this hideaway had to be brought forward from the actual date due to an unavoidable circumstance) - that was within 3 months after we got engaged! Had it not been for my mum, on the fated day, who saw us flipping through a bridal magazine with wifey admiring some solitaires which were beyond my means, I can safely say that there wouldn't be any Khadijah, Yusof, Kauthar, Ibraheem, Umar & Hajar nor this special weekend! She put her foot down and said come let's go to the goldsmith and get wifey the engagement ring! That was how the decision was made. It's not that I was not sure about wifey....but it was my obsession with my personal goals in life which was the hindrance! I knew she was the one for me to spend the rest of my life with because I was constantly thinking about her whenever we were apart; her faith in God, her company, her wits, her intelligence, her beauty etc (like what they say nowadays, a complete package....What to do.....personal goals over happiness in life!
I was later told by wifey, after the wedding, that she was giving me time until that very year (in her heart and mind; obviously she could not tell me this as we were never an item!)...She'd, otherwise, have moved on! It was shocking for me but I knew that she would not and did not expect her to wait for me till the cows come home.....! Till this day, I thank God for guiding my mum to push her way through!

You know in life you tread on very thin lines without realising it? A thin line indeed I was walking on at that very instant!

Truth of the matter was, wifey and I had been friends for what seemed to be forever....And our relationship was entirely and truly platonic. We had never gone for a proper date,...not even once, before we got married. I would say they were just outings like with other friends. I was so obsessed with my goals in life that falling in love was never an option. My goal was to make money and settle down with a wife and children in my late 30s. Well "Man proposes, God disposes" !
Dear Yayan if you are reading this, my feeling for you is aptly captured in this song - Happy Anniversary in advance!

Tak kusangka kau hadir di hidupku,
Kau penuhi semua impian hidupku,
Sungguh Tuhan ku bersyukur padaMu
Kau izin kan aku untuk mencintainya
Kau terbaik
Yang pernah kumiliki
Jangan kau pergi dariku
Namun bila harus berpisah
Kuingin kau tahu
Kaulah yang terbaik
So to any of you out there in the same dilemma, I would say, seek blessings from God and follow your heart!!! Bollocks with personal goals (LOL!)

24 comments:

Mior Azhar said...

Happy Anniversay Bro... (ours are two days ahead of yours). Alhamdulillah!!! May happiness continue to reign in your household.
The lyrics is lagu apa?

Xis said...

Dear Haq and Kak Yani..

I have to wish you both in advance too as I would not be in the country on your actual anniversary date. Happy 15th Anniversary to you both. It's indeed true that you both are such a loving, caring and sweet couple I've ever known. I pray that Allah will always shower His blessings upon you and your family. May happiness always bloom in your every day life. You both ARE * Yang Terbaik* for each other. Happy anniversary!

Mekar melor di hujung taman,
Setangkai mawar di atas dulang,
Bahagia hendaknya ke akhir zaman,
Berdua seiringan susah dan senang.

D said...

hehe.. really gotta thank your mommy for that, eh?! I guess the most important thing to remember in life is, trust in Him and everything will fall into place.

happy anniversary to the blessed couple! I assume this is a no-kids agenda, eh? *winks*

Madam Tai Tai said...

Happy Anniversary Haq and Yani! May you have many more in years to come...

Liz said...

Puh! Caya la lu Haq. First time I hear/read this confession from you. Anyway, Happy Anniversary to both of you. BTW, kat mana gambo tu?

IBU said...

Happy Anniversary!! Wish you both wellness & health for many2 more years to come.

Dad of 4+1 said...

Mior - Thanks very much! Relatively old song by Ello "Terbaik" - the one playing here in this blog! :)

Dad of 4+1 said...

Xis- Thanks for the wish and the pantun.....

Dad of 4+1 said...

D - Yes...no kids agenda!!!We had a great time btw!

Dad of 4+1 said...

MTT - Thanks!

Dad of 4+1 said...

Liz - Saya tak ngelat....! LOL! Pangkor Laut!

Dad of 4+1 said...

Ibu - Thanks.....!

Superwomanwannabe said...

Hah tulah dia. orang nak dia buat donoo je..we all could have toldyou that you were MFEO- made for each other!

may you have many many many more years of joy and happiness and weekends away! I will man the office boss!

Ps boleh tak pass this to Jab- mana lah tau...inspiration!

Dad of 4+1 said...

SW - Well that's the adventure of the whole episode, isnt it? Dah dropped major hints to him alrdy!!!

ms hart said...

Happy Anniversary to a very special couple! Semoga kasih kekal abadi sehingga ke akhirat nanti. Ameen.

MrsNordin said...

Two people told me yesterday about this great piece you wrote for your wifey but I didn't get a chance to read it until this morning. This is nice...

And I heard you had a great time in Pangkor Laut?? Not just eating like you claimed.. heh.. heh...:)

Anyway, here's wishing you both a (belated) Happy Anniversary! You're perfect for each other and that is why there are 5 little Haq & Yani in between those 15 wonderful years.

Next year, Banyan Tree, ok?

Cheers!

Minahsongeh said...

Happy Anniversary Yani and Haq. May you have happy and blessed years together.

Dad of 4+1 said...

Mrs Hart & MS - Thanks!

Dad of 4+1 said...

Mrs N - We had a whale of a time....Everything was in moderation lah! LOL!

Banyan Tree....? Would love to go if wallet permits!

mom2que said...

wowww so sweeetttt :)

congrats and happy anniversary kak yani and hubby :)

-molina-

goboklama said...

wow, lucky you...Happy belated anniversary :)

aida yurani said...

wah, abang haq. Romantik nyer.
I wish you both happy selalu and semoga kekal bahagia sampai tua and bercucu. Salam pada kak yani.

KotaStar said...

Salam sejahtera dan berbahagia kita di tahun baru 1430 /2009. Came by your blog and writing and congratulation for the subjects that have caught yr attention and of course those who came by.
Yrs is a a story from a dad of 4+ and it will feel to the brim as time moves on I am sure.

Regards from dad of 5 and cucu of 15. Haha. That surprise you. All the best.

FRoS Salleh said...

update la blog!

on my mind certainly constantly

on my mind certainly constantly